1) Tag Team it with Hubby
I think I'm going to need to get a lot better at asking Andrew for help. With Jonathan I've got pretty much everything handled. We've got a schedule down and going through my daily routine with him comes pretty naturally now. I rarely ask Andrew for help and I think it will take some getting used to, but I can see this will take more of a team effort now that I'm out-numbered. I will need to be better about letting him know how he can help instead of letting myself turn into a frazzled stress monster while doing it on my own. We have "life PARTNERS" for a reason!
2) Lower house expectations
With more kids comes less time and with less time, priorities must be reevaluated. I think that I can make life a lot easier on myself if I bump spotless home down a few on the priority list. House work is kind of my default when there isn't anything else on the schedule and it's constantly nagging at the back of my mind when there is. I can already see that I have 2 options in this area:
-Get comfortable with some mess happening along with life and learn to not let it stress me out
- Keep it high on the priority list and be a stressed out mom who doesn't have time to play hide and seek after dinner
3) 100% All-In Mommy
I like the saying
"Children aren't a distraction from more important work, they are the most important work."
It's easy to agree with but hard to keep in mind day in and day out. With one I felt like I could kind of do my own thing and have Jonathan along for the ride a lot of the time. My perspective has changed quite a bit since having two and unless I want to be frustrated about all the time these guys suck up, I'll just have to remember that there isn't anything else that's more important to do with my time anyway. They do take up a lot of time and that's exactly what my time is for at this point in life. Going to embrace motherhood 110%!
4) Wake up early
When it was just Jonathan I could get away with the toddler wake up call, but I can see that it will be very beneficial for me to have an hour or two before the kids are up to set the tone for the day. With that time I can get ready for the day - physically and spiritually, plan out the day's activities, meals etc, do a few dishes and wake the boys up at a consistent time. I think this will be really important for keeping my sanity - the calm before the storm ;)
This one is kind of a continuation of #4. Prayer has been on the front of my mind first thing every morning this week because I'm so keenly aware of my need for God's help right now. I'm sleep-deprived, still sore and recovering from giving birth and trying to figure out this two kid thing - it's pretty easy for me to remember this important part of the day right now. I know I'll need it just as much after I've got it together a little more. I will need His help every day to do a half decent job at this mom thing and it'll be important for me to ask for it every single day.
These are just a few of the things I have figured out after the first week of having two little kidlets and I know I will have 100 more next week. It's a constant learning process. Do you have any advice on transitioning from 1 to 2 kids?