Friday, May 22, 2015

Definition of judging

Sometimes social media just becomes a big mud slinging platform for whatever the hot topic is. I love it and hate it. Carnal Kayla finds it entertaining. Spirit filled Kayla can't stand it. A big one lately (in my circles anyway) is the whole grace vs judge thing. Debates about it drive me crazy for multiple reasons but one is that I think there is an inconsistency in people's definition of judging. People rant back and forth using the same word but meaning different things and I've written out what I think the 2 different meanings are: 

Judging def #1: "deciding who we think a person is on the inside based on what we see of them (actions, behavior etc)"

Judging def #2: "Looking down on other people based on what we see of them (actions, behavior etc)"

I am for and against judging and here's why.

For ALL have sinned... Just because my sin isn't as obvious as someone else's doesn't mean I don't have it. I think we should all try our best to live without sin, but no matter how hard we try we will ALL struggle with it until the day we meet our Lord. Who are we to judge who is a worse sinner than others? God is no respecter of persons and neither should we (James 2:9). We are SINNERS - pretty self explanatory title. Why do we act so shocked and appalled (and secretly delighted) when we hear about a fellow sinner sinning?

I think we should "judge (def #1)" others and be discerning about who we associate with or become close to lest we fall into OTHER sins than we already struggle with. I think "judging" (def #2) is just to feel better about ourselves even though our righteousness is as filthy rags. By rolling our eyes at other people's sin we are saying "wow, glad I'm not THAT much of a sinner." But we are. You're a sinner, I'm a sinner, we all need Christ. 

I think rebuking, sharpening, edifying others in a Biblical manner would be judging #1 and acting on that judgement because you have genuine concern and care for someone. 

I think watching/rebuking someone's sin from afar, gossiping about it, being generally aghast and just shaking your head because you can't believe the type of sin someone else struggles with is judging #2 and is, I believe, very unChristlike.


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Thursday, April 23, 2015

The "M" word

Haven't posted on here for a while. Every now and then I have a thought that is hard to summarize in 140 Characters (twitter) and I don't have a FaceBook because it stresses me out so I'll just post it here even though people don't really read blogs anymore it seems. 

 I was thinking the other day about music standards and how it's so hard to know exactly the kind of music God likes and exactly what types of instruments and sounds He prefers and at what pace He'd like them to be sung etc. since He hasn't specifically spelled this all out for us. I wish He had. I'd be just fine with checklist Christianity. That's how I like to work. I'm a list person. I'm almost jealous (but not really) of those who were under the law and had things spelled out so clearly for them. But I'm not, and I don't and so I just have to do my best to decipher these grey areas with the knowledge that I have about who God is and the guidance that His word gives on the subject. 

At one point about a year ago I just decided I was going to pretend I'd never been taught anything on the subject and just look up every verse in the Bible that said the word "music" and see if that gave any clarity. Well, the word music isn't in the Bible so I just found anything that God says about songs or praises or singing and also examples of how Old Testament Christians praised him. I looked up verses and just highlighted whatever main word jumped out at me as the focus of that passage.

Here's what I found:

Exodus 15:1-2 (song of praise)
Exodus 15:20 (timbrel, dances)
1 Chronicles 16:29 (worship, holiness)
Psalm 9:11 (praises)
Psalm 30:4 (thanks)
Psalm 33:2 (harp, psaltery)
Psalm 33:3 (new song, loud noise)
Psalm 47:1 (clap your hands, shout)
Psalm 47:6-7 (praises)
Psalm 92:1 (praises)
Psalm 95:1 (joyful noise)
Psalm 96:1 (new song)
Psalm 149:1 (new song, congregation)
Psalm 149:3 (dance, timbrel and harp)
Psalm 149:5 (aloud)
Isaiah 42:10 (new song)
Isaiah 42:11 (shout from the top of the    mountains)
Ephesians 5:19 (psalms, hymns, spiritual songs)

What I gathered from this was helpful. 

1) Old Testament Christians knew how to praise the Lord!! Sounds so exciting! Shouting and dancing and clapping and singing! Awesome.

2) It looks to me as if God is interested mostly in me praising Him period. He tells me to do it with a joyful, loud noise and a new song in my heart and maybe even get so excited that I clap my hands or do a jig and maybe throw a tambourine or harp in there. That's as specific as He gets and that's going to have to be ok with me. I will do my best to praise him in this manner. I think people muddy the waters so much and put a lot of words in God's mouth when He really just wants our praise. He does not get knit picky about if the songs are sung out of a hymnal or off a screen or with regular lights or purple lights or blue lights or if they have this particular beat or rhythm or if you sing them with your arms up or down or all around... I could go on. Many people do. It's kind of silly. If you are praising him with a genuine heart of worship then I think He is happy. If you're not, that is between you and God. He is the only one who knows your heart.

God gave me this verse the other day which is what spawned this whole post: 

1 Samuel 16:7b

"... for man looketh on the outward appearance but the Lord looketh on the heart."

Glad he can see my heart when I sing and I don't have to worry about anyone else. In the end I think that is what God hears - our heart, not the instruments. He is so good.

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Sunday, January 11, 2015

5 Things I've Learned in my First Week of 2 under 2

This past week has flown by and I hardly feel like I've had time to let the 2 kids thing really sink in (or the fact that my baby is already a week old :( With so much family in town and a husband who works from home, I haven't had much time alone with the two of them - just a few hours here and there- but in the little time that I've had these two little guys together I foresee some changes that I think will come along with our growing family. After one week of being a mommy of two, here are 5 adjustments that I feel may come along with this cuddly little addition to my world:

1) Tag Team it with Hubby

I think I'm going to need to get a lot better at asking Andrew for help. With Jonathan I've got pretty much everything handled. We've got a schedule down and going through my daily routine with him comes pretty naturally now. I rarely ask Andrew for help and I think it will take some getting used to, but I can see this will take more of a team effort now that I'm out-numbered. I will need to be better about letting him know how he can help instead of letting myself turn into a frazzled stress monster while doing it on my own. We have "life PARTNERS" for a reason!

2) Lower house expectations

With more kids comes less time and with less time, priorities must be reevaluated. I think that I can make life a lot easier on myself if I bump spotless home down a few on the priority list. House work is kind of my default when there isn't anything else on the schedule and it's constantly nagging at the back of my mind when there is. I can already see that I have 2 options in this area:

     -Get comfortable with some mess happening along with life and learn to not let it stress me out
     - Keep it high on the priority list and be a stressed out mom who doesn't have time to play hide and seek after dinner

3) 100% All-In Mommy

I like the saying

"Children aren't a distraction from more important work, they are the most important work."

It's easy to agree with but hard to keep in mind day in and day out. With one I felt like I could kind of do my own thing and have Jonathan along for the ride a lot of the time. My perspective has changed quite a bit since having two and unless I want to be frustrated about all the time these guys suck up, I'll just have to remember that there isn't anything else that's more important to do with my time anyway. They do take up a lot of time and that's exactly what my time is for at this point in life. Going to embrace motherhood 110%!

4) Wake up early

When it was just Jonathan I could get away with the toddler wake up call, but I can see that it will be very beneficial for me to have an hour or two before the kids are up to set the tone for the day. With that time I can get ready for the day - physically and spiritually, plan out the day's activities, meals etc, do a few dishes and wake the boys up at a consistent time. I think this will be really important for keeping my sanity - the calm before the storm ;)

5) Pray

This one is kind of a continuation of #4. Prayer has been on the front of my mind first thing every morning this week because I'm so keenly aware of my need for God's help right now. I'm sleep-deprived, still sore and recovering from giving birth and trying to figure out this two kid thing - it's pretty easy for me to remember this important part of the day right now. I know I'll need it just as much after I've got it together a little more. I will need His help every day to do a half decent job at this mom thing and it'll be important for me to ask for it every single day.

These are just a few of the things I have figured out after the first week of having two little kidlets and I know I will have 100 more next week. It's a constant learning process. Do you have any advice on transitioning from 1 to 2 kids?

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Thursday, July 3, 2014

What a Joy Divine

This song has really spoken to me in a new way recently and I wanted to share. I actually wanted to tweet a line but just couldn't narrow it down to 140 characters so here are all the lines! Such a comforting song :)

What have I to fear?! What a peace is mine! Love it. Couldn't find the exact version I wanted. This one isn't quite as contemplative but sure makes you want to clap your hands and praise the Lord ;)

Here is the Andy Griffith version as well, just for kicks.

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Saturday, March 1, 2014

Easy Peasy DIY business cards

Did a quick DIY project last night and thought I would take you along! I cannot take credit for this idea; it was actually my husband's. I was in a bind before my first event for my little crochet business because my business cards hadn't come yet so he suggested ... well, this! :) We had address labels for something else we had been doing and I had tags to put prices on my items, so he geniusly suggested just using what I had to make my own! I was SO happy with how they turned out that they are just what I use now instead of a real business card. They are fun and different and I think, very cute! Thanks, Babe! 

I used some today at an open house and I thought they worked great.

Here's the tutorial. Let me know if you try this out and what your business is! 

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Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Scrub-a-Dub Dub, Crochet ... in the tub?


 But bust out some suds and dirty ol' dishes cuz you are gonna have yourself a super great, super washy washcloth after this next tutorial. Sorry about the ghosting! I'll get it - I'll get it ;)

 Here 'tis! Post pics on my facebook or instagram #thingslovely!


Linked at: Whimsical Wednesday, Hope in every season, Wholehearted Wednesday
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Thursday, February 6, 2014

Learn to crochet.... with K

SO CHEESY! Had to do it. 

I would love to teach you to crochet! That is, if you would love to learn. I'm not gonna force learn ya.

I've posted the first of a series of crochet tutorials on my new YouTube channel in which I go through the very basics of beginning crochet. I will post regular tutorials as successive lessons in a class. Start with the first tutorial and we will build up to more complicated projects. 

I hope this is helpful. I'm still working on all the techy stuff, but the videos should get a little more polished as we go ;)

Lesson #1: Slip knot, Chain, Single crochet

You will need:

  • Yarn
  • Crochet hook

Linked at: Missional Women

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